Why I coach girls that don’t need traditional therapy.
I see it with my girl, I see it with the girls I coach or do therapy with. I see their desire to do well, I see the frustration and negative self talk that emerges and then the projection of this being placed outside themselves (onto coaches, parents, team members) as a means to cope with the uncomfortable feeling.
What if they are taught that it is in this uncomfortableness that they get to experience self-love, grace, and as-is-ness. They get an opportunity to ask themselves, “Is this right for me, is this the role I want (on the team, in my life, in this relationship with a boy).”
What if girls were taught about listening to their intuition, listen to their inner self to pull power back in to themselves and away from “others making me feel” theory.
What if we gave our girls permission to sit and think about, “Do I really want this right now versus the pressure of trying to fit in.”
What if we taught girls to define who they really are, to look for opportunities that align with their authentic true self and allow their selves to have permission to change and grow versus doing what the systems provide you without any questioning of it!
What if girls had permission to “mess up” and then had power in understanding their mess ups as meaningful and purposeful in self-discovery.
Girls need someone to believe in them more than they believe in themselves when they are trying to figure out their world.
I love to watch parent’s investment in their kids. I love to be invested in my own kids lives because I continue to learn more about myself. I love to study systems and how they serve our teens and ourselves to keep growing as well as how to choose and navigate environments that fit for who you are now. More times than not, it is the challenging times that make us question if we are doing it right, and usually we are. It is just time to grow, learn, and change when the hard times come up. We get an opportunity to handle the fear that changes bring, and I absolutely love change and new adventures.
At my core, I believe this for myself, my relationships, my kids and for people I coach:
The Power of Being Pushed and having expectations and chances to take Healthy Risks.
The Power of being exposed to deeper thinking and not becoming the victim.
The Power of the Adolescent and emerging adult to thrive in relationships.
The Power of teaching body wisdom, attunement to yourself first and then others.
The Power of mindfulness.
The Power of teaching that being brave and doing what is right for you oftentimes leads you to disappointing people and getting rejection, and that it is ok.
The Power of understanding your environments and your choice in how to navigate them to meet your needs.
The Power of education and trying different experiences to keep growing and not get stuck.