Teens and Parents
With the rise of depression and anxiety we need proactive intervention and ongoing real conversations about what it is like for teens today. Taking time to educate and provide relational experiences is critical in prevention for teens as well as dynamic in helping them develop their sense of identity and self esteem.
Do you notice your teen experiencing any of the following?
- Extreme mood swings
- Frequent emotional outbursts
- Emotional Rollercoaster
- Inability to cope with setbacks
- Overwhelming anxiety
- Relationship conflict or shifting
- Doubting self
- Perfectionistic tendencies
- Fear of Missing Out (FMO)
- Struggles of balancing social media information
- Taking lots of selfies
- Worrying excessively
- Struggling to deal with social status
- Dealing with cliques
- Dealing with envy
Do you notice your Pre-Teen or Teen having any of these relational stress issues?
- Bullying, aggression, meanness
- Passive aggressive friends
- Relational aggression used (“I won’t be your friend unless you….”)
- Left out
- Rejection and hurt
- Tricked by peers
- Unhealthy risk taking to fit in
- Social status worrying
- Overly attached (controlling)
- Not attached enough (withdrawn)
Check out what options are available for your teen and you to walk through the pre-adolescent and adolescent experience with a little support.
60 minutes where your teen gets to talk about whatever is going on in her life right now free from getting labeled or judged. Some examples that teens are using these sessions for are:
- how to have better relationships (friends and boyfriends)
- increase self-esteem
- increase ability for self-reflection
- address body image issue
- identify negative belief patterns
- learn healthy boundaries
- conflict management skills
- ways to communicate and connect with parents better
These sessions are to embrace and normalize the adolescent experience while examining the current challenges that your teen is experiencing and reframe it to challenge her and use it to move her forward in life experiences.
These meetings include challenging your daughter to find the benefit of what is going on in their life. Support is used to connect but not keep your teen stuck being the victim to the adolescent experience.
Self Esteem = To know your SELF! The more girls get time to self-explore in supportive environments the more they step into who they want to be, which forms their identity that is true to themselves, versus doing what Society or Social media is telling them to do.
- Ever doubt or worry about if your daughter is ok? Parent Coaching teaches developmental stages for girls, helps and educates parents on healthy development perspective tied with what they are experiencing.
- Worry about the way you show up with your pre-teen or teen daughter and want to make sure you are developing a skill set alongside her development to keep connecting on a deeper level? This challenges the belief that “adolescent years are times to just survive” when we can actually thrive and grow alongside our girls.
- Explore your daughter’s values, recognize and teach her times for self care, parent to her strengths, and explore the environments that meet her needs to maximize her self esteem.
How Can Girls’ Group Help Your Teen?
Combining the best elements of group therapy with age appropriate curriculum to teach young women how to have better relationships, increased self-esteem, increase ability for self-reflection, body image issues, identify negative belief patterns, learn healthy boundaries and conflict management skills.
The Benefits of the Group Experience?
Group experience gives young women the opportunity to share their experiences with age related peers as an experienced therapist guides them. They get to give advice that will be received and not to “adulty”, receive education for self growth and most importantly feel a sense of community and belonging.
What is Used:
Components from the following models are the basis of information provided in the groups:
Cognitive Behavior Therapy Model, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Mindfullness, Human Behavior and Developmental Stages Framework, Inter-personal Neurobiology, Gestalt Therapy Model
** Challenging teens to define themselves based on who they are and not on what they do.
Do you notice your teen overly stressed, struggling with the idea of not being good enough, pressuring themselves, or trying to keep up with others without much reflection of what is right for them?
Helping high achieving girls navigate pressure and discover how to use their experiences (good and bad) to their benefit.
Pre-Teens and Teens will learn:
- Skills to slow down and enjoy the moment.
- To balance ambition, goal setting, hard work and motivation with a sense of self and increased self-awareness
- Identify and Address Toxic mindsets and behavior
- Recognize unrealistic goals and distorted thinking
- Un-tie identity with performance and address the epidemic of never feeling good enough.
- Manage perfectionism and exhaustion.
- Athletes will learn to trust their training and themselves and get into the flow for steady performance.
Presentation to girl’s athletic teams to explore the dynamics of conflict, the pressures of student-athletes, increase communication strategies, and discuss real life teen issues that they deal with on and off the court/field.
Model and Educate coaches on ways to embrace and recognize the interactions of girls and improve relationship dynamics. Also provide coaches with hands on activities to implement daily in practices for increased mental, social, and emotional skill set.
Coaches can request topic specific presentation that they need for their team.
Examples include, but not limited to:
- Mindset, conflict management, social media, Depression, Anxiety, Navigating team/life, Roles, self-regulation and breathing, self esteem, Navigating Sports Injury, Grief/Loss, Body Image concerns, Substance Use Education, Mindfulness Skills
Presentations are designed to be done within practice time in 30 minute to an hour increments based on coaches preference.
TEEN FACTS: From 2018 Childs Mental Health Report
- As little as 1% of youth with anxiety seek treatment in the year their symptoms begin, and most anxiety symptoms go untreated for years.
- Around 50% of teens either consider themselves “shy” or are described as shy by their parents; 12% of those shy adolescents may actually meet criteria for a treatable social anxiety disorder.
- Higher emotional investment in social media has been strongly correlated with higher levels of anxiety.
- Anxiety disorders are linked to a two-fold increase in risk for substance use disorder.
- When adolescents have depression alongside social anxiety, it is strongly associated with more suicidal ideation, suicide attempts and more depressive symptoms
- A combination of cognitive behavioral therapy and antidepressant medication was effective in 81% of youth with separation anxiety, generalized anxiety and social anxiety disorder.
Why I coach girls that don’t need traditional therapy.
I see it with my girl, I see it with the girls I coach or do therapy with. I see their desire to do well, I see the frustration and negative self talk that emerges and then the projection of this being placed outside themselves (onto coaches, parents, team members) as a means to cope with the uncomfortable feeling.
What if they are taught that it is in this uncomfortableness that they get to experience self-love, grace, and as-is-ness. They get an opportunity to ask themselves, “Is this right for me, is this the role I want (on the team, in my life, in this relationship with a boy).”
What if girls were taught about listening to their intuition, listen to their inner self to pull power back in to themselves and away from “others making me feel” theory.
What if we gave our girls permission to sit and think about, “Do I really want this right now versus the pressure of trying to fit in.”
What if we taught girls to define who they really are, to look for opportunities that align with their authentic true self and allow their selves to have permission to change and grow versus doing what the systems provide you without any questioning of it!
What if girls had permission to “mess up” and then had power in understanding their mess ups as meaningful and purposeful in self-discovery.
Girls need someone to believe in them more than they believe in themselves when they are trying to figure out their world.
I love to watch parent’s investment in their kids. I love to be invested in my own kids lives because I continue to learn more about myself. I love to study systems and how they serve our teens and ourselves to keep growing as well as how to choose and navigate environments that fit for who you are now. More times than not, it is the challenging times that make us question if we are doing it right, and usually we are. It is just time to grow, learn, and change when the hard times come up. We get an opportunity to handle the fear that changes bring, and I absolutely love change and new adventures.
At my core, I believe this for myself, my relationships, my kids and for people I coach:
The Power of Being Pushed and having expectations and chances to take Healthy Risks.
The Power of being exposed to deeper thinking and not becoming the victim.
The Power of the Adolescent and emerging adult to thrive in relationships.
The Power of teaching body wisdom, attunement to yourself first and then others.
The Power of mindfulness.
The Power of teaching that being brave and doing what is right for you oftentimes leads you to disappointing people and getting rejection, and that it is ok.
The Power of understanding your environments and your choice in how to navigate them to meet your needs.
The Power of education and trying different experiences to keep growing and not get stuck.