Have you ever noticed any of these…
- That you are almost always dissatisfied with your own work and performance?
- That you spend an excessive amount of time trying to get things “right”?
- That you are generally risk-avers and hyper-vigilant or on alert?
- That your life is governed by rigid rules you impose on yourself?
- That you find situations without order and structure challenging?
- That you always notice what is out of line and feel compelled to fix it?
- That you find it hard to trust people, and it takes a long time for someone to get to know you?
- That you find it embarrassing to be vulnerable in front of others?
- That you always feel you must be in control of your impulse?
- That you find it difficult to be spontaneous and act without a plan?
- That you have difficulties expressing or even feeling anger?
- That you would sacrifice pleasure and fun just to meet your own standards?
- That you feel you deserve to be punished when you get something wrong?
- That you notice a huge discrepancy between how you see yourself and how others see you?
- That you censor yourself and other people’s behavior with high moral standards?
- That you tend to minimize your distress and be “stoic” about everything?
I work with people who
Here’s the truth that nobody wants to say:
Whatever you are doing is a brilliant strategy to move you in direction of what you really want.
My clients who self-harm have sometimes been labeled with Borderline Personality Disorder yet it doesn’t fit for them.
They fear being judged as attention-seeking. Psychotherapy has often been frustrating for them.
Behavioral interventions are not enough. Why?
If it were just a behavior problem then behavioral interventions (replacement strategies, charts, rewards, consequences, talk therapy) would be effective. They do not address the root cause.
It goes much deeper than this.
Self-harm shows up in various forms, from cutting, pinching or squeezing, pulling, hitting, burning, eating concerns, over-exercising, and more. My clients relate to the desire to feel something on the outside of their body to match the intensity of the shame, guilt, and loneliness they feel on the inside.
I am not scared of this conversation.
I want to change the whole conversation about self-harm.
It really is not about self-harm, but self-harm is just the best strategy at the moment.
I will give my clients a sense of freedom and relief, a piece of mind to understand the behavior.
*If you or your loved one is self-harming and is suicidal with a plan, I am not the right fit for you. Please go to your local hospital.
Some unique issues that I see…
Long Term Depression
Lasting and Hard to Treat Anxiety
Paranoia and Mistrust
Rumination and Over Thinking
Work with Kris
1002 East Philip Ave, North Platte, Nebraska – 308-532-4940