Here’s the truth that nobody wants to say: Whatever you are doing is a brilliant strategy to move you in direction of what you really want.
My clients who self-harm have sometimes been labeled with Borderline Personality Disorder yet it doesn’t fit for them.
They fear being judged as attention seekinPsychotherapy has often been frustrating for them.
Behavioral interventions are not enough.
If it were just a behavior problem then behavioral interventions (replacement strategies, charts, rewards, consequences, talk therapy) would be effective. They do not address the root cause.
It goes much deeper than this.
Self-harm shows up in various forms, from cutting, pinching or squeezing, pulling, hitting, burning, eating concerns, over-exercising, and more. My clients relate to the desire to feel something on the outside of their body to match the intensity of the shame, guilt, and loneliness they feel on the inside.
I am not scared of this conversation.
I want to change the whole conversation about self-harm.
It really is not about self-harm, but self-harm is just the best strategy at the moment.
I will give my clients a sense of freedom and relief, a piece of mind to understand the behavior.
*If you or your loved one is self-harming and is suicidal with a plan, I am not the right fit for you. Please go to your local hospital.